North Georgia, USA Naturalist Looking
Return to DiscussionsLooking for other male naturalists who are looking to hang out as friends without any sexual expectations. Why is it that when I hang out with another dude he seems to use the nudity as meaning sex. Nudity sharing with another dude is just so natural for me and enjoy this freedom, especially in the outdoors with others just doing normal activities is for me what the naturist lifestyle is all about. Would like to hear comments of other dudes about this.
I've definitely run into my share of this. But then there are plenty of nudist who legit just want a buddy for nude activity or camaraderie. I can't just stop trying because I know good friends are out there, but it's frustrating that so many are on here only for sex and say they're nudists. Not to sound judgemental of people looking for sex, that's fine, just go over to trueswingers.
Anyway, I've gotten to the point that I will tell someone before hanging out that I have run into this kind of thing before and that I'm not interested in sex, just a nude hangout. People are usually nice when you're upfront and non-judgmental. Sometimes they'll tell you they were looking for a hookup but will respect your boundaries. Either way, your intentions are out there before you meet someone in person.
I know that it shouldn't be necessary to clarify on a nudist site, but it saves a lot of time, misunderstanding, and hurt feelings. I hope you have safe and fun interactions with actual nudists soon!
I've had many of the same experiences. Growing up naked, I've always encountered people who assume nudity is an invitation to a sexual free for all. I have no issue being up front with people and have never had an issue with anyone pushing further from there. I've had people ask if I would mind something or another, but none that persisted after being open and direct with them.
I have also experienced the same thing whenever I make a post for other nudists to get together. My gatherings are open to both men and women, regardless of their orientations. I have been fortunate to find a few people who were sincerely interested. I also tell others upfront that I am not looking for a sex party or orgy. Being upfront helps avoid awkward and embarrassing situations.