Single Men And Their Supporters
This is a group for Single Men and their supporters. Whats this you say? (Yes we do have to go to this much length) Men that are single are people too and deserve to be treated as equals and not discriminated against because they don't have a female companion at the moment. Supporters are welcomed, any single females are also welcomed. Anyone that is not single and does not have single men on...
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Discrimination
Return to DiscussionsAs a single man I'm very much aware of the way clubs and resorts discriminate against us. They favour couples and single females. We are not predators. We are just like any other nudist. So why?! Fortunately I've been able to get by despite the discrimination.
As a never married nor attached single guy all my life I've always been a bit of an outcast. Culturally we're geared towards couples. This includes the church or any place of worship. In church especially. If you're a middle aged single like me you're looked upon as a something of a pariah. Even tried starting a singles group once but that never worked. That was like trying to herd cats. Tried everything imaginable to get people to come. We were lucky if we had 3 people to come to the group outings. With my goofy work schedule I generally don't participate in much anymore. In fact kicking back in the recliner in the evening has become my activity of choice after supper. LOL
You are right, despite best attempts, because we are single (does not matter straight or gay) there is a difference in acceptance and attitude. I have been a member or visited many nudist facilities in the US and in Europe. Things are better than they used to be but still today, people and facilities quite often do "assume" because we are single (and in my case because I am gay) that we have hidden agendas or motives. In my case, quite the opposite. I enjoy nudity. I enjoy social nudity and am comfortable in most situations. I enjoy hosting social nudists in my home or visiting others.
Things have improved tremendously over the last 50 years in the US, but many people and nudist facilities still assume that if you are a single man, you cannot "control" yourself. I might be the exception, but I have no problem in being a social nudist either in a private setting or a public setting.
It's human to discriminate and to flock together with birds of the same feather. It's also human to adapt, in fact it ensures our survival. Many people live for their own survival, but miss the point of living beyond their lives through their impact, and that's how groups, places and movements die out.
Growing up as a kid of Swedish immigrants, we stuck with Swedes. Sure, we might have had some Norwegian acquaintances, or gone to a Danish bakery as sufficient for the US, but each community kept to themselves. After college, I found the few Scandinavian groups were desperately reaching out to fellow Scandinavians, but by then it was too late and they all basically disappeared. So it is with the discriminatory nudist venues. They are not evolving and they will die out as a result. In the meantime, they all seem too stodgy, expensive and run down to attract me anyway. I prefer more vitality and if I have to keep my shorts on, such in a state park, so be it.
I believe that nudism will adapt and perhaps the best thing I can do as a 50+ single man is to get out of the way. Millennials are generally body and sex positive, and much more fluid and accepting of sexuality than any time in history. But they are also keenly aware of their digital thumbprint following them through their lives. This doesn't bode well for social nudism, at least not until they redefine it on their terms with their apps and technology. The need is there and we can consider technology and discrimination as little disturbances for now, and in the meantime we can stay naked anyway.
I'm very much a newbie to naturism and nudist resorts. I am fortunate to have three resorts (two AANR affiliated) within a hour drive of me. After reading about unescorted male discrimination, I did two things. One is becoming an AARN member. This says that I plan on upholding their good behavior guidelines. I also checked out the resorts policies and called ahead to prevent any issues. The resort (Lake Como) I have visited twice so far didn't care that I was a single male. Since it is a co-op community/resort, I'm still the new face ( or body, LOL) in the crowd. People are warming up to me more as I continue to visit. The second resort (not AANR)doesn't say no single men directly, but the daily single male admission is equal to a couple's admission. They offer half price after 4PM, except for single males, and will offer half price for your first visit, except for single males. Money says alot about this place.