Young And Old Nudists,
hi this is a group, for young and old nudists, who would like friendship through this group.
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Older Male Mentor
Return to DiscussionsHey guys,
I have often wondered what it would be like to have an older male mentor. I'm new to naturism, lacking in confidence in a variety of ways, and I've often thought that an older man showing some paternal attention, affection and guidance could be helpful in building up my sense of self. I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum according to my doctor - but in me it does not affect my intelligence, it affects my social-emotional competencies. It's something of a handicap, and as I have a father who I believe has much the same condition he was unable to show me the reassurance I really needed in my formative years. He did not choose to deny me anything, he was simply incapable of providing it - so I have absolutely no grudge against him for that; it would be unfair to hold something against him that was out of his control. But as we all need guidance and crave approval, especially in our formative years, it was something that I sorely missed and I wonder if it can be made up this late in life. I am 42 - not in my formative years anymore and well well well into adulthood. Still, if it's something that can be done this late in life, I would really want for it to be done. I live in the Sacramento, CA, area. I think a mentorship could only really be done in person, not online, because it would require time spent together and time spent in private and interacting with each other and that can't be done over a webcam. So, if there's any guys older than me who like the role of elder passing on knowledge and such to a younger generation and who live in the greater Sacramento area, please contact me. I am gay but I would welcome a mentor of any sexuality. Thanks!
You've mentioned several issue where you seek mentorship, from being nudist to confidence and issues related to being the autism spectrum. I suggest you look for a variety of friends/mentors, both local and afar, to discuss them with. It's a more realistic and productive approach that trying to find a single person locally.
My son is also on the spectrum and I've been fortunate to get good advice from a similarly "Aspie" nudist on TN regarding my son's development, and he's in Canada. I also have a couple of mentor/friends, both half my age, one on the East Coast and the other on the West Coast who are great coaches regarding sexual energy and relationships. I feel fortunate for these men in my lives, even if I've only met one in person and haven't even cammed with another.
Good luck!
I was fortunate enough to meet an older guy who introduced me to my first nude social gathering. It was a pool party / potluck. The people were very nice and it was great to just have the opportunity to take part in a nudist gathering. This gathering in particular was just for gay or bi male adult nudists (most were older than me, and I'm 42 - I think the youngest guy there was probably early 30s). I did not stay the entire time, I just stayed for an hour or so. While everyone was very nice I didn't exactly feel like I fit in very well and so the conversation I had was rather limited to fairly superficial chitchat. I'm still glad that I went and I would like to attend another gathering where hopefully I can make more connection with other attendees. If I do make more of a connection I think I will be far more likely to try to attend more future events - but that remains to be seen. But at the end of the day, I consider that a win for me because I tried something new. :)
I had a similar experience in August. I went to a pool party for the first time, and the attendees were gay/bi men. Some young men, but mostly older men. Also there were older/younger couples. Since it was the first time for me, and was alone, I couldn't connect with anyone, but one nice guy talked to me for a while, which was nice. But the overall atmosphere of gayness was a bit too much for me. I'd love to attend pool or any nude parties where straight older married men would attend. It would be easier to strike up a conversation, I hope.